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THE FIVE STAGES OF LOSS People can experience loss on many different levels and areas of their life. We sometimes think that loss is only referring to loss of a pet or loved one. However, the feeling of loss can occur thru the loss of a job, or a move to a new city where we are mourning the loss of community and familiar people and locations, and even the loss of health or change in lifestyle. Anything in which you have a strong emotional connection. The more traumatic, the more likely the stages will be more apparent. Not everyone will display all the symptoms nor in the same time, order, or manner. It is important to be aware of them and work thru all completely in order to put in perspective and be able to move forward with your life. Stage 1- Denial (Isolation)—Refusing to accept that the loss has occurred. That sense of shock and numbness may not last, but denial can last for years. Feelings of guilt may arise in some cases. The sense of shock and numbness actually works to protect us and ease the loss. Stage 2- Anger- (Resentment)- This can be directed at the person that left or anyone else that happens to be there. I have found that sometimes the anger can even be misdirected toward the therapist. This is usually where depression will start raising it’s head. Anger is actually the beginning of the process of releasing. Stage 3- Bargaining- (Desperation)- You may find that you will want to bargain with everyone. God, the therapist, anyone in your life. You may even start bargaining with yourself. Anger may persist and depression may become more apparent. Stage 4- Grief- (Depression)- This can be a time of physical release, such as crying or you may withdraw even further. Crying is our natural way of releasing anxiety. However, if the crying dominates your activities then you may wish to visit your physician and have him evaluate if you are in a clinical depression which he may prescribed medication for to ease you thru this difficult time. Stage 5- Resolution- (Acceptance)- This is the final stage and the beginning of putting your life back together. This is a stage where some people may turn toward a “higher power” or at least become a little more philosophical about life. This can act as a great time in someone’s life to make more positive changes and set a new productive course for the better. I also feel that forgiveness is a big part of acceptance and resolution. Everyone will go thru these stages in their own way and time frame.
Sometimes you will experience several stages at the same time. Sometimes
certain stages are repeated until resolved and some people may become
stuck in a stage for several years. • Reduce Stress |
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© 2005, Judy Callihan Warfield
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